That's brave! To tell someone: hey, you've hurt me big time...how about you say I'm sorry to me.

And it takes true courage to be able to say these lines (well, not verbatimly but with utmost humility and in a very mellow, uncondescending tone): It's not that I'm being extra-sensitive but I think what you said about me in front of the group is unkind. I'm not a glutton. I just love eating. And this belly fat, it's not really fat -- it's my oversized shirt.

I think it's easier to say I'm sorry to someone than to tell someone he should say sorry to you without sounding superior nor holier-than-thou.

Or must we realy have to say: make amends, kuya? Wouldn't it be sufficient (and less combative) if we just say: 'You know what? You hurt me with what you said because it's not true.' And it's up to him whether to own up to his faults or deny the wrong-doing.

Surprisingly but true, if he's a real friend, he'd say sorry and would explain (non-combatively) why he said what he said.

Real life: I was pissed off big time with my flatmate because he dirtied the pail of water that I'm saving for my bath (for some reason, even if our water heater at home is unplugged, we still keep getting a scalding flow from the faucet). He said he didn't notice it and I may have, in fact, forgotten to put the pail's lid, and he too didn't notice it when he took a bath. And then he said: I'm sorry. I was embarrased by my attitude. It's not like someone died, yet there I was making a hill out of a mole, er a mountain out of a molehill!

I made him a peace offering by treating him to a shawarma.

Prayer: Forgive us our sins, Father, as we forgive others who sin against us.